How To Move On After A Break Up- Quality Strategies,Tips and Insights

What ARE the Feelings You Are Experiencing Now?

Take a minute to sit quietly and just OBSERVE what you are feelings you experiencing right NOW.  Note them down.

Maybe you are feeling sadness ,shock , rejection, anger, grief, aloneness, guilt, resentment.

Once we can simply learn to “observe” our emotions , and “label” , “recognise” and “name” the emotions we are experiencing and feeling  (and it may be many emotions of varying strengths) , without getting drawn into the “story” behind the emotions we are in a position to begin our healing. This is the first step in how to move on after a break up.

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How to Move On After A Break Up : Second Step- Recognise Which “Pathway” You Are On.

Recognise that there are Four common “Pathways” People Take Following Their Relationship Break Up- You May Take One or All- Do You Recognise Any of These??

How to Move On After A Break Up- The First “Pathway” you may be on following your Break-Up is the “Heightened Emotions” pathway. After a breakup you may be experiencing strong anger,hurt,rejection, resentment or a desire to “get even” . Some people continually talk about what their ex partner did or didn’t do to them . If you allow these heightened emotions to continue indefinitely it may become to totally preoccupy your life  and a psychological problem may result.

How to Move On After A Break Up-The Second “Pathway” you may be on is the “Unresolved “ path. After a break up you will possibly be feeling great sadness and lethargy. If not addressed it may lead to depression and a tendency to withdraw from society. Following their break up, some people on this “pathway” often remain here for many years and the issues , problems and emotions surrounding the relationship break up may remain with them , for many months , years or occasionally the rest of their life if not challenged and subsequently resolved.

How to Move On After A Break Up-The Third “Pathway” is the “Rebound” pathway. This is a frantic , sometimes desperate desire and a clutching out for a new relationship . The underlying cause is often an attempt to take away the pain you may be feeling following your break up, which is quite natural , however , this generally only results in temporary “relief “ from this pain . This new relationship is often the result of lowered self esteem following your break up and hence our choice of partner during this vulnerable time generally leads to poor “matching” due to impaired judgement. Due to these reasons, these rebound relationships are usually short term. Friends are vital, but relationships can be disastrous until we are feeling happy about being independent and single. Our choice of partner will then be more objective and successful.

How to Move On After A Break Up : Third Step  - The ‘Recovery” Pathway

How to Move On After A Break Up- The “Recovery” pathway. The is a process based on gradually developing  understanding, acceptance, increasing your self esteem and learning new skills . Its is NOT hard to do and can be very exciting and revitalizing . This route, takes dedication but the benefits of taking this “Path” are that once learned , the skills are yours for life . People who take the ‘Recovery” path are far more likely to have ‘healthier’ relationships in the future . Given that second (and third!) marriages have an even higher chance of failing (current statistics , show over 40 percent of first marriages ‘fail’ and over 50 percent of second or third marriages fail) it is even more imperative that we workough a healthy , informed ‘recovery’ from our relationship break up before contemplating entering a new partnership. The “Recovery Series” 3 DVD Set aims to assist YOU in your Recovery and is now available through the ‘how to move on after a break up’ website:

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You will find pauses and breaks during the Recovery DVD Series, designed to allow you to really process your issues and feelings- suggestions are made for you to journal your thoughts , to help ‘get them out’. One of the main issues in ‘how to move on after a break up’ is working through fear and loneliness. You will witness very frank , honest interviews on how people experienced loneliness post separation . Learn how you can  ’re frame’  your loneliness and find ‘positives’ in it- yes it IS possible

It is extremely useful to examine why we chose the partner we did and gain an understanding of those reasons . Sometimes these reasons we chose the partner we did may have contributed to the ‘failure’ of our relationship. In learning ‘how to move on after a break up’ it is very helpful to find new strategies around communicating (or not) with your ‘ex’ at this stage of your break up.

A very useful ‘therapy’ in ‘how to move on after a break up’ is to learn to seek out trusted friends to ‘listen’ ,to really ‘hear’ you , a tool and resource that can become a useful lifelong ‘therapy’.  Also on the Disc Two “Repairs’ we look at the huge issue in for many people in ‘how to move on after a break up’: Acceptance. Learn insights into how long it takes to accept the end of your relationship . Hear from people explaining what the factors were  to facilitate their acceptance of the end of their relationship . By learning acceptance techniques they will help create a whole, happier and more independent ‘you’.
Do you have children? The issues of ‘how to move on after a break up’ can have added dimensions when we have children and we need to support them at this time. We addresses children and offer tips and strategies to support and help gain support and assistance for your children  during this difficult time. Children often feel a very similar range of emotions and turmoil that we experience during a relationship breakdown.

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DVD Disc 3- ” The New Model”. The question of ‘how to move on after a break up’ is modeled in Disc 3. Here we discuss useful and exciting ways for you to live your new life to the full. Witness very uplifting interviews with people who not only moved on from their break up or marriage breakdown, but now experience and live a very different , revitalized and fulfilled life. This is inspiring for you to see!

We take a look at understanding  ’family of origin’  influences -how our family life as a child has an impact on our adult life and which can offer you an insight into why you ‘chose’ your ‘ex’. You will learn new and very important skills such as assertiveness and how to improve your communication . There is a fascinating section of the DVD where you look at your ‘relationship style’- how you ‘are’ in a relationship  and why. This useful knowledge may reduce the risk of repeating the break up or separation experience in the future. See very uplifting  interviews of people that have gained the skills and learned and developed the self awareness ideas presented on this  ’Recovery’ DVD series. Witness how  people like you have created a new, happier, revitalised life!! Truly ‘how to move on from a break up’!

You will find it very helpful to share in the DVD set the input from ‘real’ people who participated in some of our Break Up Recovery Courses and Divorce Support Groups. It really adds a very moving ,insightful and inspiring story of people who recount their stories of their break up and emotional journey following it- the strong emotions they experienced and detail of how they healed and resolved them following their break up, separation or divorce.  This is very inspiring to view! A road map for you of how to move on after a break up.
You will find so much in the ‘Recovery Series’ 3 DVD Series. Normally selling for $49.95. Only available to ‘how to move on after a break up’ website viewers at the price of US$29.95.